La la Lola!

On 12 August the gorgeous Lola came to have her bi-monthly makeover (part of the Sharon Stone package).

Here are some pictures of her having fun and looking fabulous.

You go, Lola!

Time to PARTY Like a Rock Star

Newsflash

Awesome news, The Gay Club is hosting a party on 24 June.
The party is a Queen of Hearts Drag Party and it looks like  it will be a lot of fun.

Obviously being en femme will be accepted and you will definitely not be the only one out and about en femme! The Priscilla’s team would be more than happy to help you prepare for this fabulous event in any way we can. Specifically, we can provide the following services should you need them:
Makeup: make yourself look your very best*
Shopping for the perfect outfit for the party (either as a professional service, or just to go with you and help you out)
Storage facilities for all those awesome clothes after the party
A venue to get ready at for the party
A place to stay when you get back (should you need it)
Clothing, wig and shoe hire (assuming you do not want to buy your own)
Fashion and other style related advice
Feel free to contact us if you have any queries, need help in addition to the services listed or if you want to book with us (please note all services must be booked in advance, we cannot guarantee availability without a booking).
Priscilla’s is not exactly next door to the Gay Club, but we are only 30 or so minutes away, so convenience is not much of an issue.

Here are all the details from the club’s Facebook event:
Follow us down the rabbit hole during the month of June …
The month of June is GAY WONDERLAND MONTH at The GAY Club SA!
Get READY for our DRAG EXTRAVAGANZA PARTY: THE QUEEN OF HEARTS DRAG PARTY!!!

Whether it’s your first time in Drag or you are a seasoned Queen, join us on Saturday 24 June and help us celebrate the Divine art of DRAG!!

Headlining DJS back by popular demand are The Prince & Charm to sizzle up the dance floor in glorious LGBT wonder

Doors open 8pm- 4am
Entry :
R25 between 8-9pm
R50 between 9-10pm
R60 after 10pm
Drag Queens free entry before 9pm

Dress Code: Dust off your cha-cha heels and join us in your best DRAG LOOK! This can include (but not limited to) Full drag, androgynous, drag king or any of the many other forms of DRAG!
*Please note dressing up is not a requirement , but it will be more fun to do hehe)

Take note : No under 18’s , ID’s upon request, no bad attitudes or hate speech ,will NOT be tolerated
(R.O.A.R.)

The Gay Club can be found at the corner of Gibb & North Rand Roads, Boksburg (upstairs from Silverado’s Pub & Grill).

This looks like it is going to be a lot of fun and there will be a lot of gurls out and about. For those of you concerned about such things, please do nit be concerned by the word ‘gay’ in the title. You will be welcomed as a member of the LGBT community regardless of your sexual preference. Being a crossdresser/transgender means you will be accepted and you will certainly not be pressured into anything you do not want… The very worst that can happen is that nobody will offer to buy you a drink/hit on you all night! Kidding! Seriously, you will be welcomed and accepted and you will be free to be yourself. If you have any concerns please do not hesitate to contact us and we will happily talk you through what to expect. As to those of you who are looking for a little romantic action… Well until you get out there, you will never know!
I hope to see you all there!

*Please feel free to check out these links for some examples of Irene’s work.

May Newsletter

Well well well… Autumn is well and truly here. The leaves are turning their usual lovely shades of red, yellow, brown and yes, still some green. The temperature is dropping steadily and there is a decided chill in the air at night and in the early morning. Yet the days are as ever filled with sunshine. I am not looking forward to winter as I dislike the cold, but I suppose it is a good excuse to pull out those jerseys, boots and other woollies and try a whole new set of fashion ideas out.

As usual we would like to extend a very warm welcome to our new clients and of course say hello to all our existing clients. We hope that you are all as happy working with us as we are working with you.

We have had a very busy few months. March was a whirlwind of taking the studio from an empty shell to a warm, welcoming and pleasant place to be. April continued in that vein as we attended to minor details and dotted the T’s and crossed the I’s (well we do like to do things differently around here). Then of course there were all the holidays and associated activities to deal with, so April was busy but a lot of fun. We were of course also happy to welcome a few clients to the studio and do the odd makeover.

We have had a number of people stay over in the studio and we would like to remind all you out of towners that the studio is available for overnight stays as well as for daytime dressing. The rates are competitive and we offer a quiet discreet and accepting place where you can be yourself. We offer bed and breakfast and can assist you with places to eat out, or self catering solutions.

We continue to grow and we are hopeful of building a really vibrant community of people. Right now many of you are (understandably) quite nervous and not willing to take the risk of socialising. For those of you who are getting ready to find new friends, we are happy to say that we are working on some social ideas in the coming months. These include a number of different ideas including a cheese and wine evening in a retail store! The store will be closed for the evening and only invited guests will be allowed in. You can socialise, try on some spectacular clothes and generally have a blast. More details to follow…

Those of you who have booked, please do not forget our trip to Priscilla Queen of the Desert in May. Sadly we have had a few cancellations already, but the reviews for the show that I have seen have been very positive and I am sure we will have a fabulous time. We were at Monte Casino last week planning logistics and finding a place to meet. We will send details to those who have booked in a week or so.

As always please do not hesitate to contact us to book or to get additional information on any of our services.

Looking forward to hearing from you all soon.

The Priscilla’s Team

 

Crossdressing and the Quest for Privacy

Many crossdressers have a lot to lose. Many of us have a marriage, children, careers and a standing in the community that we want to protect. We are very concerned (given society’s general lack of knowledge and understanding about crossdressing and transgender issues) that if we are discovered, we stand to lose some or all of these things. Often we fear losing our families and careers most and are concerned that if our spouses or bosses discover that we are crossdressers we will almost certainly lose these things that we value the most.

For this reason we keep things as private as possible. Sometimes this means we end up keeping secrets from those that we love the most. Sometimes we may end up lying to those people. This can be a very difficult experience and one that adds pressure, strain and stress to our already hard lives.

I am of the opinion that it is better to be honest with people. However I also appreciate that when it comes to something like crossdressing it is very hard to predict how people will react, especially when it relates to a spouse or other close family member (I have heard of otherwise very open and liberal people freaking out when discovering this about their spouse and I have also heard of very conservative and otherwise ‘straight’ people being very accepting). Additionally it is true that once you have ‘rung the bell’ you absolutely cannot ‘un-ring’ it. Once you tell someone you have reached the point of no return. Either they will accept you or they will not. If they do not, they will almost certainly look at you in a different light… This can place intolerable strain on us and our relationships.

For this reason discretion is an absolute necessity. You need to have a very good idea of how your revelation will be received and you need to be comfortable with the consequences of that revelation, whatever they may be. If you are not prepared to accept the worst case scenario, it is probably better to keep quiet. This in turn leads to a serious problem. How do you live your life as you want and need to live it, without causing distress. Additionally how do you live a life of integrity and how do you avoid deception?

If you cannot afford to get caught crossdressing, do not get caught. Make sure you only dress in a safe and secure environment. Always make sure that you pack away all evidence and crucially make sure that all traces are removed. If a spouse finds lingerie, traces of makeup and stray hairs she will certainly think you are having an affair before she thinks you are crossdressing. This will just make life worse.

You therefore need to make sure that all your clothes are stored in a safe and secure place. I would suggest off site storage is best. I know a number of people store their clothes in their offices. This is an idea but remember your office is not yours, it belongs to your employer, so there can be very little expectation of privacy. An employer is entitled to enter a cupboard looking for documents, files etc and in so doing they may discover your stash. It is not unreasonable for them to ask questions. This could result in difficulties at work. Given that a salary is your greatest asset as it enables you to meet all your other goals (financial and otherwise) you really do not want to lose your job. I would therefore advise against storing clothes at work. A better off site solution is a self storage unit of some sorts. However these are often expensive as you end up paying for far more space than you need.

You will then need a place to dress. More often than not the opening and closing times of self storage units may not suit you, especially if you are dressing at night and you then need to find somewhere to store your clothes for a few hours before and after you dress. This complicates your life. You will also need a place to dress and undress and wash. Even if you can dress in your storage unit, finding somewhere to wash will be difficult. Entering and exiting the unit may also be difficult as the staff may not be as tolerant as we would like. You may be able to use your home but you will then be constrained by the movements of the rest of your family and you run the risk of being discovered due to someone returning unexpectedly or you may leave something incriminating out. A better solution is to find a hotel or similar establishment where you can dress, wash etc. But obviously this will add costs and can be tricky as you will need to pay by credit card, register your name etc. And again if your spouse does discover a receipt or credit card bill with a local hotel listed her assumption is not going to be the truth. She will believe you are cheating on her.

I have also heard of people dressing in their cars, driving around late at night, taking risks and not being safe. Not only are you risking your life and safety but you are also risking exposure by doing this. Sadly violent crime, hijacking and other concerns are a very real part of life in South Africa and transgender people are statistically at a greater risk of being victims of these crimes. Not only are you risking harm, you are also risking discovery. I would caution against this approach. It is just not worth becoming a statistic and having your wife find you in the emergency room wearing your stilettos and leather mini skirt!

This is why we have established Priscilla’s Services. We believe our establishment offers you the ability to live your life as you need to, without risking all those things you hold dear. Our core service offering includes storage for your clothes and a safe and well appointed place to dress and wash. All at very reasonable prices. For those of you who cannot risk telling those that you love, please be safe, please keep your privacy and trust us to be discreet. Our facilities have been developed with you in mind. We are here to help.

February Newsletter

Hi Everyone

Wow, what a fantastic month January was. Our best ever! So a BIG Priscilla’s WELCOME to all our new clients. We are very happy to have you on board. We hope that we will have many hours of fun together. We are particularly happy to see that so many of you are using our package options. These are fantastic as not only do they give you great value for money, they also allow you to sample the various services (makeup, photography, shopping services etc) that we offer. If you are interested in these packages, please check out our pricing page for details. I am sure you will all be having a lot of fun exploring with us.

This past month I was reminded of just how gratified I feel when meeting new clients. It is wonderful to see the very real impact we have on people’s lives. We try to meet all our clients in person and when people, who have never before been able to speak freely to anybody about their crossdressing/gender identity, are suddenly confronted by a friendly face, and an accepting mind you can see the relief come over them as years of emotional baggage literally drop off them. It is these moments that make me feel so privileged to know all of you. Thank you for sharing these moments with us.

On a lighter note work is progressing on our apartment. The plastering is done, the tiles are in, we have bought some furniture already and we are hoping to have it ‘habitable’ in the next week or so. We still need to do some work: blinds need to be put in and a few finishing touches will be required but we are getting there. The exterior will only be completed in a few weeks time as we need to paint the exterior walls and landscape the private garden area. But we are getting there and we are expecting you all to start booking the venue for your dressing needs. Keep an eye on the web page as we will be posting some pictures soon.

We have had some good responses to the request for a Priscilla’s social outing to Priscilla Queen of the Desert. Thank you for that. Irene will be sorting out more details shortly and we will let you know what can be done, what the costs are etc shortly.

On that note we have been reviewing our socials. We believe that they are just not working out. We do see that there is a need for some sort of social activity and we certainly want to play our role in the community but we want to have meaningful events that are well attended and FUN. We are thinking that less is more. We would love to get your feedback on what sort of events you want in addition to our accompanied outing service. Some of you have already suggested more intimate socials, perhaps at a private home and we are working on such an event. Are there any other ideas? Please feel free to contact us with your thoughts and ideas.

In other news that you may want to hear, we were told on Monday night that our sister site, Daniella’s Ramblings has been awarded ‘Best LGBT Blog 2016’ in the SA Blog Awards. Thank you to everyone who supported Daniella’s Ramblings. The award is as much yours as it is ours. You may want to take a look at the blog as it has some useful information on it.

As always, please let us know if we can do anything to assist you and we look forward to seeing more of you in the future.

Regards

The Priscilla’s Team