August Newsletter

Hi Everyone

Well, we are a little late this month aren’t we! So sorry for being so late with our monthly update but things have been a little challenging lately. Unfortunately I fell ill in early August and Irene has been keeping everything together in my absence. I am happy to say that all essential services were provided by Irene to everyone’s utmost satisfaction but sadly website updates, newsletters etc have all been put very much on the back burner. I am now well on my way to recovery and am sure normal service has all but returned. If anyone wants to know what was wrong there is a detailed report on my personal blog. But I warn you is not very exciting and kinda gross…

A hearty welcome to our new clients. I trust that all of you, new and existing clients, are happy with the service that you have received to date. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to improve or make things better for you. Please also feel free to ask any questions that you may have, whilst we do try and anticipate all your needs we are happy to engage with you around anything we may not have anticipated.
We held our second midweek outing on 16 August. Unfortunately I was unable to attend as I was sitting in hospital twiddling my thumbs, but by all accounts it was a fabulous night with most of the guests leaving after closing time (yes, I do keep an eye on you all even when I am not around). We will have a full review up on the website, in a few days time so please keep an eye out for that. We would of course love to hear from the people who were there and as always, we welcome any and all feedback.
Irene recently completed a makeup course and she is now a qualified (as well as highly experienced) makeup artist. She would be happy to share what she has learned with you and make you look even more fabulous in the process.

As I mentioned last time, we are working hard on getting a permanent, private venue for you all to dress in. We have decided that we need to make some structural changes to this venue and we have planned it and got quotes. It looks like we will be able to start work in early January 2017 and that it should be operational by February 2017.

In the meantime, the guest house nearby remains our best ‘stop gap’ solution. They are adequate and have very reasonable rates. We are happy to book this for you and assist you with all your dealings with them, to ensure your identity remains private if that is important to you. Rooms are small but mostly meet our needs and they are very flexible regarding check in times etc. They also offer a five hour rate which could work for some of you. Please be in touch for details.

Once again, thank you to all of you for your ongoing support. Please contact us should you need anything, we are happy to help wherever we can. We are happy to meet over a coffee anytime that suits you to find out what you may need.

Midweek Outing Mk 2

Hi Everyone

After the success of our last crossdresser/transgender person outing we have decided to have a second midweek outing.
We have again gone for Amuse Cafe (34 5th Street, Linden, Johannesburg) as it is a very good, accepting and tolerant venue; it is close to our dressing venue; it is cosmopolitan and relatively central for most people.

The date chosen is Tuesday 16 August 2016 at 7 pm. I am not sure what Amuse has planned at this time but the company will be good, the drinks plentiful and a fun night out is assured.

As noted above we can book the dressing facility for you at a very competitive rate and we will be on hand to help make you look fabulous. Having said that, Amuse is a very cool venue and your ability to pass (or otherwise) is irrelevant to us, the staff and the other patrons. What matters is that you be your authentic self. Feel at ease and are able to express yourself freely. We at Priscilla’s, in conjunction with Amuse will make that happen!

Looking forward to seeing you all soon. Please contact us asap so we can secure your booking. Also please feel free to contact us should you want any more information.

 

5 July: Our first outing

On Tuesday 5 July we had our first outing. We had had some people asking us if we did midweek evening outings as that was the only time they could get out and we were keen to try the concept. So we went ahead and made some plans.

It seemed that Tuesday was the most convenient day for all concerned and we selected Amuse Cafe in Linden as we wanted a safe and accepting venue where we could have a group of people that could be easily accommodated.  Dirck was very welcoming and his arrangements were perfect and spot-on.

Sadly one of our attendees had a bad motorcycle accent one week before the event and so she could not come. A number of other people canceled (which is to be expected) and the very cold weather certainly did not do us any favours. But despite all of this we still had a total attendance of eight people which we were very happy with.

Once again a big THANK YOU to all of you who braved the cold and came. Speaking for ourselves we had a lot of fun and it seems most of our guests did as well.

We were pleased to offer some of our guests the use of our ‘temporary dressing facility’. Whilst we are waiting for our permanent and dedicated venue to become available we have managed to find a local guest house to assist. The staff are accepting and professional as far as having a bunch of crossdressers/transgender people clicking through their guest house and we are confident you will feel safe and respected there until such time as our venue is up and running. The rooms are small, but adequate and above all clean. In fact the guest house is very new and thus everything feels very clean. The finishing is a bit rough and ready and it is not the most luxurious but it is adequate. The rates are also very competitive and we are sure you will all appreciate that.

After dressing we made our way to Amuse and waited for the rest of the guests to arrive. It was G’s first time out dressed and she did brilliantly. She looked fabulous and I was very impressed with her overall presentation. She looked like she had been going out and about for years.

At Amuse, I had a lively, impassioned and interesting discussion with Mike who is helping us with our web page (no, not this one, the new and improved version launching soon). Sadly he and his wife had to leave but we were soon joined by some others.

We had a lovely meal, the conversation flowed and I think we all learned something about each other and hopefully everyone felt welcomed and safe. I know I enjoyed myself immensely, especially meeting a few new people and getting some more insights.

Sadly the evening was over all too soon and we braved the cold as we left for home. We have discussed the evening and we are eager to do more such events. We would love to hear from you all with suggestions and thoughts so that we can better meet your needs and hopefully see a few more of you out there.

Sadly we forgot our camera at home (rookie error, I know) so we did not get any photographs… Next time. I promise!

July 2016 Newsletter

Hi Everyone
I hope you are all well and those of you in Gauteng are keeping nice and warm. Flip it is getting chilly.

A big welcome to our new clients. I trust that you are all satisfied with the service that you have received. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to improve or make things better for you.

Some good news is that Priscilla’s is growing up. We now have our own domain name and will be upgrading our website soon. Thanks to Mike for his very kind assistance in this regard. Also, his enthusiasm for all things digital is amazing (and catching) and is matched only by his knowledge of all things digital. If anybody needs any digital work done, please contact me so I can refer you to him. Please look out for the new site and let us know what you think (once it goes live).

We held our first ever midweek outing on 5 July. We had 8 people attend which is small but given that it was our first event, the cold and the fact that it is a school night, we were happy with the attendance. I think everyone had  a good time. Irene and  I certainly enjoyed the company. I hope that at our next event more of you will be able to attend (and that the weather is warmer). We will write a full review on the website, in a few days time so please keep an eye out for that. I thought though that I would share this with you all right away… One of our guests, E, had this to say to me today:
‘I felt really comfortable with you all. And I told B this morning how important it is for us all to have safe space to move in.
Last night made a difference for me.’
This really warms my heart and makes me feel very special. If we can make a difference to people in even a small way I am happy!

I would also like to take this opportunity to share some information with you:
As I think you all know we are working hard on getting a permanent, private venue for you all. It looks like we will have access to a venue from December 2016. We will need to do some renovations (we have had someone come and look at our plans and he is confident he can do what needs to be done), so we are hoping to have it up and running by early 2017 depending on when the builder can start work. December is a bad month for this.
In the meantime we are using our property for storage. This is fast running out so I recommend that if you are considering getting some storage (before December 2016) that you get in early to avoid disappointment.
We have secured access to an accommodating and friendly guest house nearby with very reasonable rates. We are happy to book this for you and assist you with all your dealings with them, to ensure your identity remains private if that is important to you. Rooms are small but mostly adequate and they are very flexible regarding check in times etc. They also offer a five hour rate which could work for some of you. Please be in touch for details.

Once again, thank you to all of you for your ongoing support. Please contact us should you need anything, we are happy to help wherever we can. We are happy to meet over a coffee anytime that suits you to find out what you may need.

Outing, 5 July, an update.

We are all set for our trip to Amuse Cafe, Dirck is expecting us, we have reserved a table and we already have a few confirmations.If more than 8 of us are going to do this, we will reserve a second table. How cool would that be?
We have also secured the venue for dressing. We need to pay for the booking by no later than Friday to ensure we keep the rooms and we therefore need those of you who are keen to please confirm your reservation by no later than Friday 24 June. we will also need you to pay with your reservation as we will need to pay for the rooms in full to secure the space.
Rooms are available for R450 for the night.
Or, a special rate of R350 for 5 hours only if that suits you, but then you will need to either get changed before your time is up, or somewhere else. We will do the reservations in our names and we will check in on the day so you will be able to retain your privacy and anonymity.
Please note that we will be available to do your makeup and that you are of course free to hire wigs, shoes or clothes.
Please let us know if you are coming asap so we can secure space. We will need to operate on a first come first served basis here…
Looking forward to hearing from you all.

It Is Time To Be You

For far too long, far too many of Gauteng’s transgender people and crosssdressers have been unable to be who they were meant to be. Too few of us have the supportive structures that allow us to express our true selves and far too many of us who do want to express themselves end up having to visit dingy hotels to change or worse, expose themselves to grave danger whilst getting dressed in dark and isolated parking lots or other dangerous places.

Too many people are unable to share this essential and important part of their personality with their loved ones and they end up being repressed, unhappy and unfulfilled. The time has come to change all that. You can now have a discreet and safe environment in which to dress. You can then love being you in a safe, accepting and private establishment that is classy and comfortable, or if you like you can choose to venture out into the world and be your true self, either on your own or accompanied by our experienced and friendly staff.

Stop spending a fortune on inquisitive and impersonal hotels. Stop putting your reputation and safety at risk. Make sure that you can be yourself without damaging the important relationships in your life. Come to Priscilla’s and make use of our facility to keep your privacy.

Stop buying beautiful clothes, shoes, wigs and makeup and then purging because you have nowhere to keep your valuable wardrobe. We have storage facilities ready and waiting for you to use.

Whether you are a transexual person, desperate but unable to express yourself, a fetishist or just interested in exploring your feminine side; whether you are intensely private or loud and proud and whether you have your own clothes or not, we are here to help you. We are accepting, non-judgmental and care about your happiness. We have the solution to your needs.

Be safe. Have fun. Be you.

July Mid-Week Outing

Hi everyone

A few of you have contacted us saying you would really like to have an outing/social evening during the week as it can be difficult to get out over the weekend. We are therefore planning a midweek outing in July for you all.

The idea is that we will go to a trans-friendly and accepting venue in Johannesburg. It will be a very positive experience and you need not worry about your ability to pass as nobody will care one way or the other.

We will arrange a facility where everyone can dress and we will also accompany everyone to the venue so there will be ‘safety in numbers’. Obviously all bookings will be done in our name and you need not worry about any privacy concerns you may have.

We are aiming for a day in the week starting 4 July. Most suitable dates seem to be 5, 6 or 7 July, but nothing is set in stone yet. Please let us know (through the Contact Us page) if you are interested in attending.

We will be happy to assist with clothing hire, bookings and makeup wherever we can. Looking forward to hearing from everyone.

Want to avoid getting into Trouble?

Getting out and about is a huge step in any crossdresser or transgender person’s life. It marks the time that you are prepared to face the world and be who you are. It also means that whilst you may not be prepared to out yourself, you are comfortable with at least some level of exposure and risk.
This is not a step to be taken lightly and you should only do it when you are ready. But the rewards are huge. There are few experiences more liberating, satisfying and euphoric than being out, socialising with people and being accepted by everyone for who you are. It breaks many shackles. You feel comfortable with yourself and the shame and guilt that is so often associated with dressing in private seems to disappear.

There are many concerns associated with being dressed in the big world and I would caution against people throwing on some makeup and charging out the front door. This can lead to some very negative experiences. On the other hand with some help, planning and advice things almost always go well.

Many transwomen and crossdressers worry about ‘passing’. Passing is both necessary and an illusion. That makes no sense, right? Let me explain. It is an illusion because just about nobody passes all the time. We get all get ‘read’ eventually. It may be the first glance, or when we order our drink, or when we do something unconsciously masculine (bend down like a man to pick something up, scratch a groin or whatever). Those of us who pass or perhaps more accurately blend do so by choosing clothing carefully, doing hair and makeup ‘just so’ and carefully observing their mannerisms. Crucially they also overlay all this paranoia with a thick veneer of confidence. They may be running a thousand checklists in their heads all the time, but they look to the outside world like a woman doing her thing.
Confidence is a massive thing. People (adults that is) see what they expect to see until something tells them otherwise. So, if you walk down the street, comfortable, confident and assured people will just see a woman. They probably won’t look at you for more than a few fractions of a second and they will not even consciously register seeing you. If you stick out obviously you may be noticed but few people will.
You need to feel that you are passing in order ton have the confidence to pass. Without this confidence you will be too scared to venture out and strangely once you have the confidence you don’t care whether you pass or not.
Gaining confidence does not happen overnight and it is a fragile thing. Months of good work can be easily undone. It is thus a good idea to start small. Find places where being clocked will be no big deal. Look out for trans friendly establishments and frequent those. Finding a group of like minded folk is always a big help and there is always safety in numbers.
Also if you choose your venues correctly passing becomes an irrelevance. Go to the right places and no one cares. They are just happy to see you be yourself. It is true such places do exist!

We can assist you by advising you regarding places where you can freely and safely go. We can also assist you regarding issues such as how to behave (we lack the years and years of socialisation that genetic women have, far better or worse), what to wear and what not to do. We can also accompany you on outings making sure you have a friendly face on hand to help you.

In Gauteng Trouble is a fantastic place to visit. It is regularly frequented by trans people, gay people, lesbian people and straight people. It is relaxed and fun with a pool table, dance floors, fantastic cocktails and a very accepting vibe. You will be safe at all times and no one will harass you. Amuse Cafe is also a good trans friendly venue. It usually has a live show of some sort (local bands, drag shows etc) and their is a cover charge, but the food is good and relatively cheap.

We try and get out regularly. We go to restaurants, coffee shops, malls, theaters and revue bars. It is a lot of fun but it is best taken slowly and carefully. Make sure you can swim before jumping into the deep-end and there is absolutely nothing wrong with dipping your toes in the water first!

 

I would heartily recommend getting out and seeing how much fun you can have. Let us help you with our accompanied outings service. You will not look back!

 

Thank You

As a new business we are of course beset by a few challenges. Acquiring stock for the rental side of our business was always going to be tricky as it requires a significant outlay in terms of capital expenditure. An outlay that takes some time to recoup and this can lead to cash flow challenges. A problem for any new enterprise.

I am happy to say that we have been greatly assisted by a number of members of the trans community who have donated product to us. These donations have been a huge help to us as it gives us a basis of stock to rent out without incurring massive expenses and has allowed us to add to this stock gradually with new wigs, clothes and shoes.

Some of our donors have asked to remain anonymous but those who have not will be acknowledged here:
Cara Cross
Anonymous 1
Anonymous 2

You are all very kind and we really appreciate your contributions.

 

We are open for business

Well the day has finally arrived. We are officially open for business. A lot has happened over the last few months and we have made some changes to our original plans and models to enable us to start serving our community as quickly as possible.

We are so happy (and relieved) that this day has finally arrived.
We are pleased to be able to offer you the following services:

  • Storage
  • Dressing (either assisted by us all on your own at our discreet and private venue)
  • Accompanied outings
    • Shopping (either accompanied by us or we can shop for you)
    • Coffee
    • Meals
    • Party nights
    • Have a celebration? We can help.
  •  Advice, education, assistance

For a comprehensive list please visit our services page.

Our storage price list can be found here and all other services will be quoted on an ad hoc basis after consulting with you to ensure that we meet your needs and expectations.

We are here to help so if you have a need that is not directly addressed by the above ‘menu’, please feel free to contact us so that we can assist you in any way we can.

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