Want to avoid getting into Trouble?

Getting out and about is a huge step in any crossdresser or transgender person’s life. It marks the time that you are prepared to face the world and be who you are. It also means that whilst you may not be prepared to out yourself, you are comfortable with at least some level of exposure and risk.
This is not a step to be taken lightly and you should only do it when you are ready. But the rewards are huge. There are few experiences more liberating, satisfying and euphoric than being out, socialising with people and being accepted by everyone for who you are. It breaks many shackles. You feel comfortable with yourself and the shame and guilt that is so often associated with dressing in private seems to disappear.

There are many concerns associated with being dressed in the big world and I would caution against people throwing on some makeup and charging out the front door. This can lead to some very negative experiences. On the other hand with some help, planning and advice things almost always go well.

Many transwomen and crossdressers worry about ‘passing’. Passing is both necessary and an illusion. That makes no sense, right? Let me explain. It is an illusion because just about nobody passes all the time. We get all get ‘read’ eventually. It may be the first glance, or when we order our drink, or when we do something unconsciously masculine (bend down like a man to pick something up, scratch a groin or whatever). Those of us who pass or perhaps more accurately blend do so by choosing clothing carefully, doing hair and makeup ‘just so’ and carefully observing their mannerisms. Crucially they also overlay all this paranoia with a thick veneer of confidence. They may be running a thousand checklists in their heads all the time, but they look to the outside world like a woman doing her thing.
Confidence is a massive thing. People (adults that is) see what they expect to see until something tells them otherwise. So, if you walk down the street, comfortable, confident and assured people will just see a woman. They probably won’t look at you for more than a few fractions of a second and they will not even consciously register seeing you. If you stick out obviously you may be noticed but few people will.
You need to feel that you are passing in order ton have the confidence to pass. Without this confidence you will be too scared to venture out and strangely once you have the confidence you don’t care whether you pass or not.
Gaining confidence does not happen overnight and it is a fragile thing. Months of good work can be easily undone. It is thus a good idea to start small. Find places where being clocked will be no big deal. Look out for trans friendly establishments and frequent those. Finding a group of like minded folk is always a big help and there is always safety in numbers.
Also if you choose your venues correctly passing becomes an irrelevance. Go to the right places and no one cares. They are just happy to see you be yourself. It is true such places do exist!

We can assist you by advising you regarding places where you can freely and safely go. We can also assist you regarding issues such as how to behave (we lack the years and years of socialisation that genetic women have, far better or worse), what to wear and what not to do. We can also accompany you on outings making sure you have a friendly face on hand to help you.

In Gauteng Trouble is a fantastic place to visit. It is regularly frequented by trans people, gay people, lesbian people and straight people. It is relaxed and fun with a pool table, dance floors, fantastic cocktails and a very accepting vibe. You will be safe at all times and no one will harass you. Amuse Cafe is also a good trans friendly venue. It usually has a live show of some sort (local bands, drag shows etc) and their is a cover charge, but the food is good and relatively cheap.

We try and get out regularly. We go to restaurants, coffee shops, malls, theaters and revue bars. It is a lot of fun but it is best taken slowly and carefully. Make sure you can swim before jumping into the deep-end and there is absolutely nothing wrong with dipping your toes in the water first!

 

I would heartily recommend getting out and seeing how much fun you can have. Let us help you with our accompanied outings service. You will not look back!

 

Who we are and what we do

Some of you may be interested in watching a little video I put together. Our plan doesn’t allow for video on this site, so please feel free to follow this link.

Please letuse know what you think.

Thank You

As a new business we are of course beset by a few challenges. Acquiring stock for the rental side of our business was always going to be tricky as it requires a significant outlay in terms of capital expenditure. An outlay that takes some time to recoup and this can lead to cash flow challenges. A problem for any new enterprise.

I am happy to say that we have been greatly assisted by a number of members of the trans community who have donated product to us. These donations have been a huge help to us as it gives us a basis of stock to rent out without incurring massive expenses and has allowed us to add to this stock gradually with new wigs, clothes and shoes.

Some of our donors have asked to remain anonymous but those who have not will be acknowledged here:
Cara Cross
Anonymous 1
Anonymous 2

You are all very kind and we really appreciate your contributions.

 

Update re rentals

Hi everyone

Please check out the pricing page for an update with respect to rentals (reproduced below).

Please check back in a few days to see our photographic catalogue of items.

Rental
We have wigs, dresses, shoes and costumes available for hire. We will be publishing a ‘catalogue’ of these shortly and will of course update the catalogue as and when new acquisitions are made.
We charge a rental fee and a cash deposit is required before hiring any goods. As I am sure you understand we risk losing goods through damage and the deposit is charged to defray any possible losses. The deposit charged will vary in accordance with the quality of the goods in question and the risk profile (wigs are more easily damaged than dresses for example). As and when we acquire different quality goods we will adjust the deposits accordingly.
Items can be rented for a maximum period of 72 hours, but with notice we can extend this in special circumstances. Please Contact Us so we can discuss this.

Prices
Product                    Quality Code                 Deposit      Rate per day (or part thereof)
Wigs                          001                                   R400           R100
Shoes                        001                                   R250            R100
Dresses                    001                                   R250            R100
Skirts                        001                                   R150             R75
Tops                          001                                   R150             R75

Please note that we do not hire out lingerie, makeup or accessories.

A long overdue update

As you all know we have been having considerable difficulties finding a suitable venue for Priscilla’s Services. We have also been very much aware that some people are desperate for our services and that we needed to make a start on our venture. We were also very nervous that if we bought a venue before we had signed up clients we could find ourselves in the situation where we had over estimated the size of the market and that we may therefore risk losing a lot of money (property is not cheap).
We have therefore made a few adjustments to our original business plan, but crucially, we retain the basic premise of offering:
secure, safe storage
a discreet and private environment
a place to dress
additional ‘ad hoc’ dressing related services
To this end we have decided to store our clients clothing on our property. We have a secure site on our property which has space for lockers and a wardrobe. If space runs short we also have some storage in our house. Once we exceed this additional storage capacity, we will either purchase a property for Priscilla’s Services (if we have sufficient clients), or we will rent off site storage until such time as we can justify purchasing our exclusive use venue. This approach reduces our risk, speeds up our time to market and brings some cost savings, which means we can reduce the costs to our clients.
The plan is that we will store all your clothing, wigs, accessories etc for you. When you want to dress we can either simply bring it to you or we can book a venue for you (we have a range of venues that will offer varying pricing and a scale of ‘luxury’). Depending on your need for privacy, we can offer a range of services in this regard that will preserve your anonymity. At the most private we would do the booking in our name, arrive at the guest house and check in with your clothes, wigs, shoes etc. We would lay it out and make sure all is ready for you. We would then meet you off site where you could leave your car. We would then accompany you to the guest house and see you to the room ensuring you never need ‘bump’ into anybody. Your anonymity is preserved and there is no paper trail to you. Your car would be in a very public place and nobody need know anything. We would then either leave you to do whatever you wanted, meeting you later to take you back to your car and then we would check out, or we would assist you with our dressing services (makeup, accompanied outings etc). The dressing services, booking of rooms etc would all be additional costs and would be done on an ad hoc basis depending on what is required by you.
We want to be as flexible as possible and meet our clients’ individual needs. This will of course all get a lot easier when we have our own venue but for now we need to start somewhere, start providing services to those that need them and start helping those that need our assistance.
Please also note that we have started building our collection of rental stock. We have wigs, shoes and dresses for hire and are always building our collection so please get in touch so we can assist you. Please note that for hygiene reasons all wigs are washed after every use and we do not hire out lingerie. All underwear (including gaffes, bras, corsets, garter belts, hosiery etc) will need to be purchased by you. We are happy to assist you in this regard with our personal shopping services.
We are looking forward to hearing from all of you. Please let us know what you need and we will do our very best to assist you as soon as we possibly can.

We are open for business

Well the day has finally arrived. We are officially open for business. A lot has happened over the last few months and we have made some changes to our original plans and models to enable us to start serving our community as quickly as possible.

We are so happy (and relieved) that this day has finally arrived.
We are pleased to be able to offer you the following services:

  • Storage
  • Dressing (either assisted by us all on your own at our discreet and private venue)
  • Accompanied outings
    • Shopping (either accompanied by us or we can shop for you)
    • Coffee
    • Meals
    • Party nights
    • Have a celebration? We can help.
  •  Advice, education, assistance

For a comprehensive list please visit our services page.

Our storage price list can be found here and all other services will be quoted on an ad hoc basis after consulting with you to ensure that we meet your needs and expectations.

We are here to help so if you have a need that is not directly addressed by the above ‘menu’, please feel free to contact us so that we can assist you in any way we can.

An Update. Finding a Venue Proves Harder Than Expected

So, we have had some trouble finding the ideal venue.The first property we saw was sold to a higher bidder. Then we saw a really nice place but the area was somewhat unsuitable and some of our potential clients pointed out that they perceived the area to be less than safe. We then looked elsewhere and were unable to find anything suitable until we came across a unit in a complex in a very good area.

Sadly things did not work out. I have blogged about our brush with prejudice here.

So we continue to search for the ideal spot. Please be assured we are committed to making this happen and I hope you can bear with us whilst we make this happen for you.

In the meantime if you are interested in what we have to offer, please feel free to contact us so that we can add you to our database of names. we would love to keep you updated as to progress and get your input in terms of what we have to offer. You can reach us through the Contact Us page. Looking forward to hearing from you.