For far too long, far too many of Gauteng’s transgender people and crosssdressers have been unable to be who they were meant to be. Too few of us have the supportive structures that allow us to express our true selves and far too many of us who do want to express themselves end up having to visit dingy hotels to change or worse, expose themselves to grave danger whilst getting dressed in dark and isolated parking lots or other dangerous places.
Too many people are unable to share this essential and important part of their personality with their loved ones and they end up being repressed, unhappy and unfulfilled. The time has come to change all that. You can now have a discreet and safe environment in which to dress. You can then love being you in a safe, accepting and private establishment that is classy and comfortable, or if you like you can choose to venture out into the world and be your true self, either on your own or accompanied by our experienced and friendly staff.
Stop spending a fortune on inquisitive and impersonal hotels. Stop putting your reputation and safety at risk. Make sure that you can be yourself without damaging the important relationships in your life. Come to Priscilla’s and make use of our facility to keep your privacy.
Stop buying beautiful clothes, shoes, wigs and makeup and then purging because you have nowhere to keep your valuable wardrobe. We have storage facilities ready and waiting for you to use.
Whether you are a transexual person, desperate but unable to express yourself, a fetishist or just interested in exploring your feminine side; whether you are intensely private or loud and proud and whether you have your own clothes or not, we are here to help you. We are accepting, non-judgmental and care about your happiness. We have the solution to your needs.
Be safe. Have fun. Be you.
A few of you have contacted us saying you would really like to have an outing/social evening during the week as it can be difficult to get out over the weekend. We are therefore planning a midweek outing in July for you all.
The idea is that we will go to a trans-friendly and accepting venue in Johannesburg. It will be a very positive experience and you need not worry about your ability to pass as nobody will care one way or the other.
We will arrange a facility where everyone can dress and we will also accompany everyone to the venue so there will be ‘safety in numbers’. Obviously all bookings will be done in our name and you need not worry about any privacy concerns you may have.
We are aiming for a day in the week starting 4 July. Most suitable dates seem to be 5, 6 or 7 July, but nothing is set in stone yet. Please let us know (through the Contact Us page) if you are interested in attending.
We will be happy to assist with clothing hire, bookings and makeup wherever we can. Looking forward to hearing from everyone.
Getting out and about is a huge step in any crossdresser or transgender person’s life. It marks the time that you are prepared to face the world and be who you are. It also means that whilst you may not be prepared to out yourself, you are comfortable with at least some level of exposure and risk.
This is not a step to be taken lightly and you should only do it when you are ready. But the rewards are huge. There are few experiences more liberating, satisfying and euphoric than being out, socialising with people and being accepted by everyone for who you are. It breaks many shackles. You feel comfortable with yourself and the shame and guilt that is so often associated with dressing in private seems to disappear.
There are many concerns associated with being dressed in the big world and I would caution against people throwing on some makeup and charging out the front door. This can lead to some very negative experiences. On the other hand with some help, planning and advice things almost always go well.
Many transwomen and crossdressers worry about ‘passing’. Passing is both necessary and an illusion. That makes no sense, right? Let me explain. It is an illusion because just about nobody passes all the time. We get all get ‘read’ eventually. It may be the first glance, or when we order our drink, or when we do something unconsciously masculine (bend down like a man to pick something up, scratch a groin or whatever). Those of us who pass or perhaps more accurately blend do so by choosing clothing carefully, doing hair and makeup ‘just so’ and carefully observing their mannerisms. Crucially they also overlay all this paranoia with a thick veneer of confidence. They may be running a thousand checklists in their heads all the time, but they look to the outside world like a woman doing her thing.
Confidence is a massive thing. People (adults that is) see what they expect to see until something tells them otherwise. So, if you walk down the street, comfortable, confident and assured people will just see a woman. They probably won’t look at you for more than a few fractions of a second and they will not even consciously register seeing you. If you stick out obviously you may be noticed but few people will.
You need to feel that you are passing in order ton have the confidence to pass. Without this confidence you will be too scared to venture out and strangely once you have the confidence you don’t care whether you pass or not.
Gaining confidence does not happen overnight and it is a fragile thing. Months of good work can be easily undone. It is thus a good idea to start small. Find places where being clocked will be no big deal. Look out for trans friendly establishments and frequent those. Finding a group of like minded folk is always a big help and there is always safety in numbers.
Also if you choose your venues correctly passing becomes an irrelevance. Go to the right places and no one cares. They are just happy to see you be yourself. It is true such places do exist!
We can assist you by advising you regarding places where you can freely and safely go. We can also assist you regarding issues such as how to behave (we lack the years and years of socialisation that genetic women have, far better or worse), what to wear and what not to do. We can also accompany you on outings making sure you have a friendly face on hand to help you.
In Gauteng Trouble is a fantastic place to visit. It is regularly frequented by trans people, gay people, lesbian people and straight people. It is relaxed and fun with a pool table, dance floors, fantastic cocktails and a very accepting vibe. You will be safe at all times and no one will harass you. Amuse Cafe is also a good trans friendly venue. It usually has a live show of some sort (local bands, drag shows etc) and their is a cover charge, but the food is good and relatively cheap.
We try and get out regularly. We go to restaurants, coffee shops, malls, theaters and revue bars. It is a lot of fun but it is best taken slowly and carefully. Make sure you can swim before jumping into the deep-end and there is absolutely nothing wrong with dipping your toes in the water first!
I would heartily recommend getting out and seeing how much fun you can have. Let us help you with our accompanied outings service. You will not look back!