Priscilla Queen of the Desert Outing

Hi Everyone

Time is running short, so here is a final update regarding all final arrangements for our Priscilla Queen of the Desert outing.

Date: Wednesday 24 May 2017
Where: Teatro at Monte Casino
Curtain up: 8 pm

We have decided that we should all meet at:

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Beira Alta Cocktail Lounge (mostly because it is super close to the Teatro) for pre-show drinks (and to collect your tickets) at 6-45 for 7. Those of you coming to the studio to get your makeup done will obviously meet us at the studio!

If you have any queries please contact us so that we can assist.

Looking forward to seeing you all, it is going to be absolutely fabulous!

May Newsletter

Well well well… Autumn is well and truly here. The leaves are turning their usual lovely shades of red, yellow, brown and yes, still some green. The temperature is dropping steadily and there is a decided chill in the air at night and in the early morning. Yet the days are as ever filled with sunshine. I am not looking forward to winter as I dislike the cold, but I suppose it is a good excuse to pull out those jerseys, boots and other woollies and try a whole new set of fashion ideas out.

As usual we would like to extend a very warm welcome to our new clients and of course say hello to all our existing clients. We hope that you are all as happy working with us as we are working with you.

We have had a very busy few months. March was a whirlwind of taking the studio from an empty shell to a warm, welcoming and pleasant place to be. April continued in that vein as we attended to minor details and dotted the T’s and crossed the I’s (well we do like to do things differently around here). Then of course there were all the holidays and associated activities to deal with, so April was busy but a lot of fun. We were of course also happy to welcome a few clients to the studio and do the odd makeover.

We have had a number of people stay over in the studio and we would like to remind all you out of towners that the studio is available for overnight stays as well as for daytime dressing. The rates are competitive and we offer a quiet discreet and accepting place where you can be yourself. We offer bed and breakfast and can assist you with places to eat out, or self catering solutions.

We continue to grow and we are hopeful of building a really vibrant community of people. Right now many of you are (understandably) quite nervous and not willing to take the risk of socialising. For those of you who are getting ready to find new friends, we are happy to say that we are working on some social ideas in the coming months. These include a number of different ideas including a cheese and wine evening in a retail store! The store will be closed for the evening and only invited guests will be allowed in. You can socialise, try on some spectacular clothes and generally have a blast. More details to follow…

Those of you who have booked, please do not forget our trip to Priscilla Queen of the Desert in May. Sadly we have had a few cancellations already, but the reviews for the show that I have seen have been very positive and I am sure we will have a fabulous time. We were at Monte Casino last week planning logistics and finding a place to meet. We will send details to those who have booked in a week or so.

As always please do not hesitate to contact us to book or to get additional information on any of our services.

Looking forward to hearing from you all soon.

The Priscilla’s Team

 

A Priscilla’s Makeover for Lola

Lola is one of our members who has taken advantage of one of our membership packages.
She recently came to Priscilla’s and made use of our venue for a day of dressing fun. She also availed herself of Irene’s exceptional makeup skills.
Lola has graciously agreed to allow us to share some of her fabulous pictures with you all.

There were a number of wardrobe changes and a mixture of photographs taken by Irene and a few self portraits…

I think we all agree that Lola looks beautiful!

The ‘blue period’:

Princess in khaki:

Ballgown:

Remember, you too could feel this beautiful. All you need to do is contact us to make a booking. We provide the clothes, the makeup, the wigs, the shoes and the venue where you can transform into your true self.
Feel free to use the ‘services’ and ‘pricing’ drop down menus above for more details.

Looking forward to seeing you soon.

Irene at Work: Melissa

As noted previously, a number of our clients prefer to remain as discrete and private as possible. We totally understand and ‘get’ that. It does however make ‘advertising’ our service a bit tricky. Melissa came to one our social events last year and got her makeup done by Irene. She has very kindly agreed to share her pictures from that wintry night with us all. Doesn’t she look great?

Irene always does the kind of style and ‘look’ you want. I think Melissa looks lovely and naturally feminine here. A great look for her. Nothing over the top, nothing too extreme. Just a woman looking her best for an evening out.

If you are interested, you can always book a session and see just how amazing and beautiful a good makeover can make you feel!

Priscilla Queen of the Desert!

Hi Everyone

As promised, Priscilla’s Services will be arranging an absolutely fabulous trip for all of us to go and see Priscilla Queen of the Desert.
We would love it if you could ALL join us for an evening of feminine fabulousness and fun.
We will do a bulk booking so that we can all be seated together in the same part of the theater. We will endeavour to get the best seats possible at the best price. The price below is thus a maximum price you will pay. If we can get cheaper tickets we will refund you the difference. Please note that as we are doing the booking on your behalf, we will need the money to be paid when you book as we cannot afford to be out of pocket.

The details are as follows
When 24 May 2017
Time 8pm show.
Place Montecasino. We will meet at 7pm for drinks before hand. Venue to be decided.
Cost R450 per person (for the show, excluding drinks)
Booking deadline 5 April

Irene will of course be available to do makeup and assist you if you need it.Our venue will be available for those in need of somewhere to dress and of course we will make contingency plans should an ‘overflow’ situation arise.
When booking for the show please indicate if you will be needing any other services (makeup, shopping, dressing venue etc) so we can start preparing.

Please note that you do not have to come en femme and we would love to see you all even if you would prefer to come en homme. Also this event is open to anyone who wants to join. Supporters, friends, partners, spouses etc, whether, trans, cis, whatever you are all welcome. This would just be a great opportunity to get out and about whether en femme or en homme, meet some like minded people and have a fabulous evening together.

If any of you are worried, we went to see Rocky Horror at Montecasino on one of my first ‘vanilla’ evenings en femme. It was FINE!

Please contact us to make your booking or to ask any questions you may have.

Hope to hear from you all soon.

Crossdressing and the Quest for Privacy

Many crossdressers have a lot to lose. Many of us have a marriage, children, careers and a standing in the community that we want to protect. We are very concerned (given society’s general lack of knowledge and understanding about crossdressing and transgender issues) that if we are discovered, we stand to lose some or all of these things. Often we fear losing our families and careers most and are concerned that if our spouses or bosses discover that we are crossdressers we will almost certainly lose these things that we value the most.

For this reason we keep things as private as possible. Sometimes this means we end up keeping secrets from those that we love the most. Sometimes we may end up lying to those people. This can be a very difficult experience and one that adds pressure, strain and stress to our already hard lives.

I am of the opinion that it is better to be honest with people. However I also appreciate that when it comes to something like crossdressing it is very hard to predict how people will react, especially when it relates to a spouse or other close family member (I have heard of otherwise very open and liberal people freaking out when discovering this about their spouse and I have also heard of very conservative and otherwise ‘straight’ people being very accepting). Additionally it is true that once you have ‘rung the bell’ you absolutely cannot ‘un-ring’ it. Once you tell someone you have reached the point of no return. Either they will accept you or they will not. If they do not, they will almost certainly look at you in a different light… This can place intolerable strain on us and our relationships.

For this reason discretion is an absolute necessity. You need to have a very good idea of how your revelation will be received and you need to be comfortable with the consequences of that revelation, whatever they may be. If you are not prepared to accept the worst case scenario, it is probably better to keep quiet. This in turn leads to a serious problem. How do you live your life as you want and need to live it, without causing distress. Additionally how do you live a life of integrity and how do you avoid deception?

If you cannot afford to get caught crossdressing, do not get caught. Make sure you only dress in a safe and secure environment. Always make sure that you pack away all evidence and crucially make sure that all traces are removed. If a spouse finds lingerie, traces of makeup and stray hairs she will certainly think you are having an affair before she thinks you are crossdressing. This will just make life worse.

You therefore need to make sure that all your clothes are stored in a safe and secure place. I would suggest off site storage is best. I know a number of people store their clothes in their offices. This is an idea but remember your office is not yours, it belongs to your employer, so there can be very little expectation of privacy. An employer is entitled to enter a cupboard looking for documents, files etc and in so doing they may discover your stash. It is not unreasonable for them to ask questions. This could result in difficulties at work. Given that a salary is your greatest asset as it enables you to meet all your other goals (financial and otherwise) you really do not want to lose your job. I would therefore advise against storing clothes at work. A better off site solution is a self storage unit of some sorts. However these are often expensive as you end up paying for far more space than you need.

You will then need a place to dress. More often than not the opening and closing times of self storage units may not suit you, especially if you are dressing at night and you then need to find somewhere to store your clothes for a few hours before and after you dress. This complicates your life. You will also need a place to dress and undress and wash. Even if you can dress in your storage unit, finding somewhere to wash will be difficult. Entering and exiting the unit may also be difficult as the staff may not be as tolerant as we would like. You may be able to use your home but you will then be constrained by the movements of the rest of your family and you run the risk of being discovered due to someone returning unexpectedly or you may leave something incriminating out. A better solution is to find a hotel or similar establishment where you can dress, wash etc. But obviously this will add costs and can be tricky as you will need to pay by credit card, register your name etc. And again if your spouse does discover a receipt or credit card bill with a local hotel listed her assumption is not going to be the truth. She will believe you are cheating on her.

I have also heard of people dressing in their cars, driving around late at night, taking risks and not being safe. Not only are you risking your life and safety but you are also risking exposure by doing this. Sadly violent crime, hijacking and other concerns are a very real part of life in South Africa and transgender people are statistically at a greater risk of being victims of these crimes. Not only are you risking harm, you are also risking discovery. I would caution against this approach. It is just not worth becoming a statistic and having your wife find you in the emergency room wearing your stilettos and leather mini skirt!

This is why we have established Priscilla’s Services. We believe our establishment offers you the ability to live your life as you need to, without risking all those things you hold dear. Our core service offering includes storage for your clothes and a safe and well appointed place to dress and wash. All at very reasonable prices. For those of you who cannot risk telling those that you love, please be safe, please keep your privacy and trust us to be discreet. Our facilities have been developed with you in mind. We are here to help.

Portfolio

As you may well imagine a number of our clients are somewhat less than keen to have their photograph taken and those that have photographs are often less than willing to share them on the internet. It can therefore be hard to show off our best work.

Then again we do have one very willing model, Daniella… She has agreed to allow us to show off Irene’s handiwork through a series of photographs below. The makeup in these photos has all been done by Irene for a variety of different events. Each event is outlined in the caption.

We hope that seeing Irene’s work will give you some idea of her ability.

Dinner at Beefcakes restaurant April 2016.

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Dinner at a restaurant on a Saturday night, followed by a friend’s birthday party. May 2016

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Note the eye shadow

Cocktail party. October 2016

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Mall crawl. December 2016

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A more casual look for day time shopping

Birthday party chic. February 2017

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Note the ‘winged’ eyeliner