Irene at Work: Melissa

As noted previously, a number of our clients prefer to remain as discrete and private as possible. We totally understand and ‘get’ that. It does however make ‘advertising’ our service a bit tricky. Melissa came to one our social events last year and got her makeup done by Irene. She has very kindly agreed to share her pictures from that wintry night with us all. Doesn’t she look great?

Irene always does the kind of style and ‘look’ you want. I think Melissa looks lovely and naturally feminine here. A great look for her. Nothing over the top, nothing too extreme. Just a woman looking her best for an evening out.

If you are interested, you can always book a session and see just how amazing and beautiful a good makeover can make you feel!

Priscilla Queen of the Desert!

Hi Everyone

As promised, Priscilla’s Services will be arranging an absolutely fabulous trip for all of us to go and see Priscilla Queen of the Desert.
We would love it if you could ALL join us for an evening of feminine fabulousness and fun.
We will do a bulk booking so that we can all be seated together in the same part of the theater. We will endeavour to get the best seats possible at the best price. The price below is thus a maximum price you will pay. If we can get cheaper tickets we will refund you the difference. Please note that as we are doing the booking on your behalf, we will need the money to be paid when you book as we cannot afford to be out of pocket.

The details are as follows
When 24 May 2017
Time 8pm show.
Place Montecasino. We will meet at 7pm for drinks before hand. Venue to be decided.
Cost R450 per person (for the show, excluding drinks)
Booking deadline 5 April

Irene will of course be available to do makeup and assist you if you need it.Our venue will be available for those in need of somewhere to dress and of course we will make contingency plans should an ‘overflow’ situation arise.
When booking for the show please indicate if you will be needing any other services (makeup, shopping, dressing venue etc) so we can start preparing.

Please note that you do not have to come en femme and we would love to see you all even if you would prefer to come en homme. Also this event is open to anyone who wants to join. Supporters, friends, partners, spouses etc, whether, trans, cis, whatever you are all welcome. This would just be a great opportunity to get out and about whether en femme or en homme, meet some like minded people and have a fabulous evening together.

If any of you are worried, we went to see Rocky Horror at Montecasino on one of my first ‘vanilla’ evenings en femme. It was FINE!

Please contact us to make your booking or to ask any questions you may have.

Hope to hear from you all soon.

Priscilla’s Studio: Update

Some of you may have seen our March newsletter where we announced the opening of our studio. I am happy to say that we have already had two overnight guests and one visitor tye feedback has been positive.

As a result of their feedback we have made some changes and upgrades. So far it seems the idea of an overnight stay is appealing to our clients. We have therefore abandoned the sleeper couch and replaced it with a ‘proper’ full size double bed. This has reduced space a little but has massively increased our guests comfort levels for overnight stays! Here are some photographs of the double bed.

We have also finished equipping the kitchenette and the dining area. We have a fridge, kettle filter coffee machine and a microwave for all your short term culinary needs.

We have also made some progress painting the exterior of the building (although it is still very much a work in progress). The next step (post painting) is to get going on the private garden area!

We would love to have you round for a visit and a makeover session. To book your session or if you need more information simply click on this link  and we will help you out. Most of our rates can be found here, but feel free to contact us and we will be happy to quote you in detail if required.

 

March Newsletter

Hi Everyone

First off, and as usual, a BIG Priscilla’s welcome to all our new clients. We are very happy to have you on board and look forward to having lots of fun with you as you find your true selves.

Now for the most exciting news! Our venue is operational! That is right we have a fully functional studio apartment (branded as Priscilla’s Studio) which is private, secure and where you can dress to your heart’s content. The venue offers secure parking behind an electric fence and a motorised gate. Don’t worry you will be able to come and go as you please for the duration of your visit and please note that your car is not visible from the street. The studio offers you a space of around 16 square metres and includes and en suite bathroom (shower, toilet and basin), a sitting area complete with a dressing table and a couch. We also have a small kitchenette, complete with tea and coffee making facilities.

Here are some pictures of the venue:

We have also decided to offer overnight stays to those who are from out of town, or who are just looking for a place to sleep after a night of partying. The bed is on the small side for a double so whilst it can accommodate two people at a stretch, it may be more comfortable for single travelers. We have already had our first client use the dressing room and we are expecting our first overnight client in a few days time.

Our rates are very reasonable and we offer discounts for Priscilla’s Services clients and even bigger discounts for our clients who are on one of our packages. Our rates are as follows:
Base Rate: R550 per night
Book Direct Rate: R500 per night
Priscilla’s Services Clients: R475
Priscilla’s Services Clients who are ‘package’ customers: R450

We offer a continental breakfast, served in the studio, for an additional R75 per person. Please let us know well in advance if you want to avail yourself of this option.

We are (obviously) LGBT friendly. For more details you can visit our website although the website will only be ‘live’ in a few weeks time as we are waiting for some banners and logos to be made.

For those interested in socials:
Irene is still busy finalising some details for Priscilla Queen of the Desert and I am sure she will be in touch soon with an update.

As always we are here to meet your needs. Please let us know what we can do for you.

Regards

The Priscilla’s Services Team

Crossdressing and the Quest for Privacy

Many crossdressers have a lot to lose. Many of us have a marriage, children, careers and a standing in the community that we want to protect. We are very concerned (given society’s general lack of knowledge and understanding about crossdressing and transgender issues) that if we are discovered, we stand to lose some or all of these things. Often we fear losing our families and careers most and are concerned that if our spouses or bosses discover that we are crossdressers we will almost certainly lose these things that we value the most.

For this reason we keep things as private as possible. Sometimes this means we end up keeping secrets from those that we love the most. Sometimes we may end up lying to those people. This can be a very difficult experience and one that adds pressure, strain and stress to our already hard lives.

I am of the opinion that it is better to be honest with people. However I also appreciate that when it comes to something like crossdressing it is very hard to predict how people will react, especially when it relates to a spouse or other close family member (I have heard of otherwise very open and liberal people freaking out when discovering this about their spouse and I have also heard of very conservative and otherwise ‘straight’ people being very accepting). Additionally it is true that once you have ‘rung the bell’ you absolutely cannot ‘un-ring’ it. Once you tell someone you have reached the point of no return. Either they will accept you or they will not. If they do not, they will almost certainly look at you in a different light… This can place intolerable strain on us and our relationships.

For this reason discretion is an absolute necessity. You need to have a very good idea of how your revelation will be received and you need to be comfortable with the consequences of that revelation, whatever they may be. If you are not prepared to accept the worst case scenario, it is probably better to keep quiet. This in turn leads to a serious problem. How do you live your life as you want and need to live it, without causing distress. Additionally how do you live a life of integrity and how do you avoid deception?

If you cannot afford to get caught crossdressing, do not get caught. Make sure you only dress in a safe and secure environment. Always make sure that you pack away all evidence and crucially make sure that all traces are removed. If a spouse finds lingerie, traces of makeup and stray hairs she will certainly think you are having an affair before she thinks you are crossdressing. This will just make life worse.

You therefore need to make sure that all your clothes are stored in a safe and secure place. I would suggest off site storage is best. I know a number of people store their clothes in their offices. This is an idea but remember your office is not yours, it belongs to your employer, so there can be very little expectation of privacy. An employer is entitled to enter a cupboard looking for documents, files etc and in so doing they may discover your stash. It is not unreasonable for them to ask questions. This could result in difficulties at work. Given that a salary is your greatest asset as it enables you to meet all your other goals (financial and otherwise) you really do not want to lose your job. I would therefore advise against storing clothes at work. A better off site solution is a self storage unit of some sorts. However these are often expensive as you end up paying for far more space than you need.

You will then need a place to dress. More often than not the opening and closing times of self storage units may not suit you, especially if you are dressing at night and you then need to find somewhere to store your clothes for a few hours before and after you dress. This complicates your life. You will also need a place to dress and undress and wash. Even if you can dress in your storage unit, finding somewhere to wash will be difficult. Entering and exiting the unit may also be difficult as the staff may not be as tolerant as we would like. You may be able to use your home but you will then be constrained by the movements of the rest of your family and you run the risk of being discovered due to someone returning unexpectedly or you may leave something incriminating out. A better solution is to find a hotel or similar establishment where you can dress, wash etc. But obviously this will add costs and can be tricky as you will need to pay by credit card, register your name etc. And again if your spouse does discover a receipt or credit card bill with a local hotel listed her assumption is not going to be the truth. She will believe you are cheating on her.

I have also heard of people dressing in their cars, driving around late at night, taking risks and not being safe. Not only are you risking your life and safety but you are also risking exposure by doing this. Sadly violent crime, hijacking and other concerns are a very real part of life in South Africa and transgender people are statistically at a greater risk of being victims of these crimes. Not only are you risking harm, you are also risking discovery. I would caution against this approach. It is just not worth becoming a statistic and having your wife find you in the emergency room wearing your stilettos and leather mini skirt!

This is why we have established Priscilla’s Services. We believe our establishment offers you the ability to live your life as you need to, without risking all those things you hold dear. Our core service offering includes storage for your clothes and a safe and well appointed place to dress and wash. All at very reasonable prices. For those of you who cannot risk telling those that you love, please be safe, please keep your privacy and trust us to be discreet. Our facilities have been developed with you in mind. We are here to help.

Portfolio

As you may well imagine a number of our clients are somewhat less than keen to have their photograph taken and those that have photographs are often less than willing to share them on the internet. It can therefore be hard to show off our best work.

Then again we do have one very willing model, Daniella… She has agreed to allow us to show off Irene’s handiwork through a series of photographs below. The makeup in these photos has all been done by Irene for a variety of different events. Each event is outlined in the caption.

We hope that seeing Irene’s work will give you some idea of her ability.

Dinner at Beefcakes restaurant April 2016.

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Dinner at a restaurant on a Saturday night, followed by a friend’s birthday party. May 2016

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Note the eye shadow

Cocktail party. October 2016

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Mall crawl. December 2016

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A more casual look for day time shopping

Birthday party chic. February 2017

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Note the ‘winged’ eyeliner

February Newsletter

Hi Everyone

Wow, what a fantastic month January was. Our best ever! So a BIG Priscilla’s WELCOME to all our new clients. We are very happy to have you on board. We hope that we will have many hours of fun together. We are particularly happy to see that so many of you are using our package options. These are fantastic as not only do they give you great value for money, they also allow you to sample the various services (makeup, photography, shopping services etc) that we offer. If you are interested in these packages, please check out our pricing page for details. I am sure you will all be having a lot of fun exploring with us.

This past month I was reminded of just how gratified I feel when meeting new clients. It is wonderful to see the very real impact we have on people’s lives. We try to meet all our clients in person and when people, who have never before been able to speak freely to anybody about their crossdressing/gender identity, are suddenly confronted by a friendly face, and an accepting mind you can see the relief come over them as years of emotional baggage literally drop off them. It is these moments that make me feel so privileged to know all of you. Thank you for sharing these moments with us.

On a lighter note work is progressing on our studio. The plastering is done, the tiles are in, we have bought some furniture already and we are hoping to have it ‘habitable’ in the next week or so. We still need to do some work: blinds need to be put in and a few finishing touches will be required but we are getting there. The exterior will only be completed in a few weeks time as we need to paint the exterior walls and landscape the private garden area. But we are getting there and we are expecting you all to start booking the venue for your dressing needs. Keep an eye on the web page as we will be posting some pictures soon.

We have had some good responses to the request for a Priscilla’s social outing to Priscilla Queen of the Desert. Thank you for that. Irene will be sorting out more details shortly and we will let you know what can be done, what the costs are etc shortly.

On that note we have been reviewing our socials. We believe that they are just not working out. We do see that there is a need for some sort of social activity and we certainly want to play our role in the community but we want to have meaningful events that are well attended and FUN. We are thinking that less is more. We would love to get your feedback on what sort of events you want in addition to our accompanied outing service. Some of you have already suggested more intimate socials, perhaps at a private home and we are working on such an event. Are there any other ideas? Please feel free to contact us with your thoughts and ideas.

In other news that you may want to hear, we were told on Monday night that our sister site, Daniella’s Ramblings has been awarded ‘Best LGBT Blog 2016’ in the SA Blog Awards. Thank you to everyone who supported Daniella’s Ramblings. The award is as much yours as it is ours. You may want to take a look at the blog as it has some useful information on it.

As always, please let us know if we can do anything to assist you and we look forward to seeing more of you in the future.

Regards

The Priscilla’s Team